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by bill - 2007-12-06 03:34:35 ( in family, adoption, holmes, travel) [php version] rebuild

As you probably read below in Tara's post, our court appearance went very well. Ten days from now we will officially be the proud parents of Elizabeth! And now Vika tells us that we get to visit her not just a few times, but every day except Sunday. I don't know what Elizabeth has on her schedule for Sundays, but apparently she's busy. :) To me, being allowed daily visits is HUGE because we need to reestablish that bond with her as much as possible before we travel back home with her.

For the record, the courthouse is on Sovetskaya Street. [UPDATE: This might be it here, on the right..] The courtroom number was 114; just in case that means anything in numerology. :) In court, of the eight of us, I was the only man. For some reason, that calmed my fears a bit. I guess because I knew that if push came to shove, I could "take 'em." :) There was no "bailiff" or any sort of security person, which surprised me. I was expecting several unsmiling men with guns, in those iconic red and green Russian army uniforms.

One of the "witnesses," looking at the photo album before the hearing began, noted how much Elizabeth looks like Tara. I joked that she looks more like me, just because I'm contrary like that.

Once the hearing began, each person except for the judge stood and introduced herself, talked about her hopes and dreams and ... OK, not really, but they did state their names and titles. As expected, they started the questioning with me. I talked about how long Tara and I have been married, why we're adopting, why from Russia, and how much we love Elizabeth. A lot of it is just a blur, but apparently I performed well. They asked each of us about our jobs and finances, and me specifically regarding experience with children, what we would do with Elizabeth if we were divorced, and did we have a prenuptial agreement. That one also surprised us. I said that, in accordance with the pre-nup, we would sell her to the highest bidder on e-bay. :) Actually, I said we would see who she was closest to, and that person would be the one who kept her. Of course, the other spouse would try to get visitation rights, and there was no pre-nup.

At one point, the judge took an unexpected break and left the room. When she returned, she was unable to keep a straight face as she asked, "So, have you changed your mind about this adoption?" I just laughed and said, "No." After the hearing, Tara and I laughed about that question. "Yeah, we've changed our minds. We were just kidding. We never thought we would get this far. I guess we didn't really think this through."

At the end of the hearing, she again left the room, this time to make her decision. By the way, every time she came or went, we all had to stand. The same was true whenever we answered one of her questions. It was good exercise.

Anyway, the hardest part is over. Now we just have to worry about the rest of our lives.

After tonight, we will be relocating to a less smoky room on a lower floor. We went and looked at a possible apartment for the rest of our stay, but the neighborhood was just way too broken down, scary, depressing, and isolated. Vika said it was a safe neighborhood, but "you never know." The apartment itself was OK inside, but we just decided that we had it pretty good at the hotel, after all, so that's where we will stay.

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    Dear Elizabeth,

Welcome to the family! We love you already and can't wait to meet you.

Love, Ronica

P.S. I have lots of bubbles and stickers!!! I can't wait until we can play!!

- Ronica, 2007-11-29 09:59:32

    Praise be! I was so happy when I got the news at work I was crying for joy so hard I had to stop and take a walk, before I could get back to work. This is such wonderful news. Elizabeth you have a whole new family of aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents that can't wait to meet you and spoil you every chance we get. Your Aunt Stephanie can't wait to play with you! Your brothers and sisters (Chandler, Joey, Daisy, and Sunny) are very excited to meet you and can't wait for you to begin dropping food on the floor so that they can help you clean it all up. Lots of Love, Stephanie

- Stephanie and Todd, 2007-11-29 11:37:44

    Welcome to America and your new family, Elizabeth! Your new mom and dad have been waiting a long time for you and God picked you special just for them. I know that you won't get to meet me and my family for awhile but I can't wait to help shower you with gifts you don't need and noisy things to annoy your parents! I share the joy with your new family and I also cried a little when I read this post. I am so happy for all of you! God bless your new family! Love, Aunt Emily, Uncle Rob, Kaitlyn and Alan

- Auntie Em, 2007-11-29 11:45:32

    I am so happy for you all!

- Jeannie, 2007-11-29 16:28:21

    Well Bill, Now you are a father and life as you knew it will never be the same. You will be a great father and you won't miss your old life at all. Everything things is better with a little one by your side! Love you,

- Jeannie, 2007-11-30 02:14:18

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Here is the complete blog of the adoption experience in paperback form, Russian Adoption: From Nashville to Astrakhan and Back (PDF). And here is the fictionalized, future "homeland tour" (action adventure) version in various forms: on Kindle, various electronic formats, and in paperback.

This Time Next Week -- Preparation for Our First Trip to Russia -- Travel Day -- The Day Before -- Tuesday (10/2/2007) -- In the Air -- We're in Moscow -- Adoption Videos -- -- First Time in Moscow -- It's Only Monday? -- Check-Out Time -- We're in Astrakhan -- What a Day -- It's a Girl It's a Girl -- Great Visit -- Sights of Astrakhan -- Wednesday in Astrakhan -- Last Visit for a While -- Thursday in Astrakhan -- Another Great Visit -- We're Home -- Back in Atlanta -- Round Two -- Skora Mweh Tam Boojum -- Elizabeth's Room -- Internet Access -- Back in Moscow (11/26/2007) -- Tuesday (11/27/2007) -- Mweh Yeddum V Aeroport Eta Ootra -- In the Air Again -- Back in Astrakhan -- Comments Welcome -- Russian Adoption Consultant -- Russian Bureaucracy -- It's Showtime -- And the Judge Says -- Success -- Went for a Walk -- Much Better Visit Today -- The Day After -- Beet Salad -- Saturday Morning -- It's Going to Be a Good Week -- She's Warming Up to Us -- Light at the End of the Tunnel -- Picture of Us Before Court -- She's Ours -- The First Hours of Parenthood -- More Pictures (12-09-2007) -- Bowel Movement -- Nothing Much to Update About -- Sleep, What a Concept -- Here's Your Update -- 51-1/2 Hours -- Back in Moscow (12/18/2007) -- Pictures of Our Life in Astrakhan -- Just Another Week to Go -- Riding the Metro, Part Deux -- Update to the Update's Update -- Moscow Update Continued -- Can't Leave Early -- To the Embassy -- Still in Moscow -- Riding the Metro -- We're Home! (For Good, this Time) -- A Few Pictures -- Stay Tuned -- Summary of Our Russian Adoption Experience -- Baby Shower -- Doctors Say She's Normal -- Recent Photos of Elizabeth -- Holmes Russian Adoption Videos -- Elizabeth's First Video -- A Few More Videos -- Adoption Videos Updated -- Our Russian Adoption Story -- Our Adoption Story -- Gotcha Day and Merry Christmas

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