Good guidelines. This snipped below is the most useful part:
In DBT [dialectical behavior therapy], the skill is encapsulated in a mnemonic device known as DearMan: Describe what you want; Express yourself in ways that reflect the importance of your request; Assert yourself effectively but not aggressively; Reinforce a request by explaining what good would come from it; stay Mindful and don't get caught up in another's defensiveness or your own intensity; Appear confident; Negotiate, don't demand.
"That's way over my head. " Dad, 2013-09-22 05:44:521